Friday of the Second Week of Lent
Even as adults, my sisters and I sometimes joke about being the favorite of our father’s three daughters. Thankfully, our parents didn’t show favoritism, at least not intentionally. But I’m sure I’ve been guilty of harboring feelings of jealousy toward one or the other of them at times. Jealousy within families is old, at least as old as the book of Genesis. We know the familiar story of Cain and Abel and how jealousy led Cain to kill his own brother. Today we read another familiar Old Testament story of sibling jealousy, the story of Joseph and his brothers.
You probably know the story. There’s much more to it than today’s passage from Genesis. Briefly, Joseph is the youngest and favorite of all his father’s sons. This is evident to the older brothers and one day they plot to kill him. They call him the “man of dreams” because he has shared his dreams (literal dreams) with them and they don’t like what his dreams seem to be revealing (adding to their disdain of him). One of the brothers has mercy on him and convinces the rest not to kill him out right; they eventually sell him into slavery and lie to their father about it, thinking that will be the end of the story. But, of course, it’s not. We learn later in Genesis that while still a slave Joseph interprets Pharaoh’s dreams, impressing him so much with his wisdom that he is put in charge of the palace and all the land of Egypt. Eventually he uses his position of power to save his family from famine, and he and his brothers are reconciled.
This “man of dreams” is raised up from betrayal (and almost murder) by his brothers, from a position of slavery with no power to great power under Pharaoh. His gift of dreams and dream interpretation that his brothers revile eventually save him and his family. He could have abused his power to gain revenge on his brothers, but instead he showed compassion and reconciled with them.
In the gospel reading from Matthew we hear of a similar theme in the Parable of the Tenants: “This is the heir; let us kill him,” likely referencing Jesus’ own betrayal and murder. And we are given the reminder, “The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone….”
This brings some questions to mind: How aware am I of my own jealousy? Does it bring division within my family or in other relationships? If I have been rejected, have I chosen reconciliation over revenge? Can I develop and use my own gifts and talents without fear of others’ jealousy? Do I support others in developing and sharing their talents?
May Joseph’s story give us pause to reflect on the influence of jealousy in our lives this Lent. Let us pray for the grace to choose reconciliation where needed, especially as we look toward Easter and the celebration of the “Cornerstone” that had been rejected. “By the Lord has this been done, and it is wonderful in our eyes.” (Matthew 21:42b)
—Eileen Miller